How To Practice Assertiveness In Real-Life Situations
Do you ever experience trouble in life saying “no” to others? Sometimes in life, you have to say ”no” and it is possible through assertiveness. This article will discuss what assertiveness is and how we can practice assertiveness in real-life situations.
sometimes a situation comes when you are busy in handling your projects and at the same time when a colleague or other relative asks you to complete another task. Through you are already busy still you say yes because you cannot say no.
Indeed to save your relationship and not to spoil them, you always say yes to sustain peace. But this extra work will be a burden on you which will make you work for extra hours. Although you will sustain a good relationship with that colleague, it will affect your inner peace.
Apart from this, sometimes in life, you have to say “no,” and it is possible through assertiveness. Through assertiveness, you stand up for yourself while respecting others. In that case, if you have trouble practicing assertiveness and saying no, we will help you in this article on how to overcome it. let’s discuss this in detail
Assertiveness and Characteristics of an Assertive Person:
Assertiveness is standing for yourself, for your rights with confidence and a respectful and positive manner without being aggressive. It is often practiced in social and communication settings.
Moreover, through practicing assertiveness, you can communicate your feeling to others without upsetting them or yourself. For example, someone asks for your help while you are already very busy completing your task. What will you do in this situation?
Remember that if you say yes, it will be a burden on you and affect your productivity. So practice saying, “Never mind, but I cannot do it this time because I have my work to complete, dude.” See! It is straightforward, but you have to practice it in real life”.
Let’s discuss some of the essential characteristics of assertive individuals.
- An assertive person stands up for himself, his own best interest, and can express his true feelings.
- An assertive person sends a message to another person that” I am okay, and you are okay.”
- Assertive individuals are confident and are free to express their thoughts and desires.
- They know their rights and also have control over anger.
- Additionally, they can maintain good relationships with others.
- These people are compromising with others rather than being selfish.
- They consider other needs as well as keeping in mind counting their own needs.
Tips to practice assertiveness in real life
We will share some tips with you which will help in your assertiveness training.
Remember You Cannot Control Another Person Behavior:
Remember that you cannot control another person’s behavior or reaction, but you can control yourself. So please do not blame yourself for how others treat you as it is not your responsibility.
For example, while practicing saying “no,” if some act angry or rude with you, try to ignore their reaction. It will help you maintain your inner peace. You have the right to say whatever you want without disrespecting or violating ethics.
Receive Compliments and Also Criticism with positivity
Besides, you have to accept the negative feedback with positivity and humbleness. Positive Criticism helps you overcome your weakness and also correct mistakes. If you don’t want to hear Criticism, then you are prepared to say it without being aggressive or defensive.
Be aware of Your Limits and Capabilities
Importantly knowing your limits and priorities is essential. You cannot wait for others to identify them for you. Try to take small initiatives and set tangible goals in life. When you become sure about this, you will be confident in telling others that want you to want.
You can ask others for help politely. Always express yourself positively but remember to control your emotions.
Maximize the Use of "I" In Conversation
Try to use “I need” or “I want” to communicate your point firmly in conversation. It will help you in enhancing self-confidence. For example, you can say that “I need another person to help me with this project as it is long.”
Empathy means putting yourself in others’ show. It will help you in understanding another person’s position and situation. After this, express your point of view that what you want from another person. For example, you can say that” I can understand that you have trouble working with this group, but we have to complete the project by Saturday. Let’s all sit down can’t and discuss the matter together”.
Keep Practicing With an Increase in Intensity
If your first practice in being assertive is not successful, then try it in another way. But remember, try to control your anger and be polite.
For example, ” annum, it is the fourth time I have to speak to you, but still, you are coming late in class. If you are late once more this week, then I will inform the discipline committee about this matter”.
Maybe after this statement, you still do not get what you what from the person. But take your time and try another time without getting annoyed.
The broken records technique is simply repeating your requests every time you meet with resistance. Be prepared before conveying your message to others.
For example, if you cannot do more work with a person, I cannot take work from you anymore. Repeat your message until the other person realizes your opinion. Remember to use it for protecting yourself, not for bullying others.
In short, assertiveness is the balance between being passive and aggressive. So it is simply having a strong sense of own self, also acknowledging own needs and desires .it is realizing that you deserve to get what you want.
Additionally, you have the ability and right to say no if you don’t want to perform a specific task. There’s nothing terrible in saying no, and you can still sustain a good relationship with others.
Also, it is a long process, and you cannot achieve it in one night; in contrast, you have to practice it regularly. It will slowly build confidence and self-belief in you, leading towards positivity and productivity. I hope this article will help you in going through your assertiveness journey.
Written by: Sadia Zubair